Thursday, April 21, 2016

What's a Memoir About Anyway?


To a non-writer, it might seem that being truthful in writing is easy—just tell it.

Here’s a passage from a good writer that is on-point. 

The passage is on page thirty of the novel Lila by Marilynne Robinson. The protagonist of the novel is a silent young woman whom the reader does not yet know well.  She is sitting with an elderly minister in his kitchen, drinking coffee.  He has just told her an event about angels. 

She said, “I liked that story.”

He looked away from her and laughed.  “It is a story, isn’t it? I’ve never really thought of it that way. And I suppose the next time I tell it, it will be a better story.  Maybe a little less true.  I might not tell it again. I hope I won’t.  You’re right not to talk.  It’s a sort of higher honesty, I think.  Once you start talking, there’s no telling what you’ll say. 

Read that last sentence again—Once you start talking, there’s no telling what you’ll say. 

Most people don’t suffer at being writers.  Truth in writing is more complicated than most people understand.  Once we writers start talking—writing—there’s no telling what we’ll say. 

What we writers say is for the good of the story we are telling.  The good of the story we are telling becomes our motivation, which is paramount.  Truth notwithstanding.

If the need of the story is for its protagonist to step off the porch and to trip over the cat, then that is what the protagonist does—even though the truth of the incident was that it was the bottom step of the inside staircase, and it was the dog.  

Lila is a novel.  Fiction is one thing; memoir is another.  I write memoir.  It’s harder. 

For one thing, the people you write about in memoir are still alive, or they may be, and they have a right to privacy—which is true even if they’re dead.  For another, you yourself have a right to privacy, even when you seem deliberately to have opened yourself up.  But the main difficulty about your memoir is that your memoir is not about you.  Your memoir uses you to support its real subject.  Its real subject is your theme for writing. 

What are you writing about?  Not you.  Frankly, no one is much interested in you except a few friends and relations.  It’s your theme that is of general interest—you hope.

If your memoir’s theme is how pet ownership has opened up your life to greater awareness of God, let’s say, then it really doesn’t matter if the accident was prompted by the porch and the cat or by the stairs and the dog.  Either is relevant to the theme.

However, you know that it was the stairs and the dog. 

That’s the truth trouble, right there, because what you write is that it was the porch and the cat.  You write that it was the porch and the cat because, later, at the climax, when the awareness of God comes vividly upon you, that event actually happened on the porch, and you need to use the porch and the cat for the accident so that your memoir, as a whole, will make both thematic and literary sense.    

How do you balance? 

Theme?  Truth? 

Or do you serve each need at the same time—by using techniques of fiction, without stepping across the line into fiction? 

Readers of your book want to be excited by your memoir, not because it is about you, but—on the basis of your theme—because it is about them.  It’s about them even though you have gussied up their awareness of themselves in interesting new ways for them.  You have let them experience your locale, your adventure, your relationship, your trouble. 

They are drawn into your memoir by this.  They stay with you, inside your book, because of what you have revealed to them about them. 

 Each draft of your story perfects your story, while each draft is a little less true.  That’s because once you start to write your story, there’s no telling what you’ll say.   

             

            copyright, Dikkon Eberhart, 2016

           

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